Tuesday, August 14, 2012

The letter has been written

I have written the letter to Brit's parents asking for the four of us to sit down and talk about our level of openness in our adoption relationship.

It felt good to write.  I could have written a book.  It was very hard to keep it down to a couple of pages.

I let BF look it over last night and he gave it his blessing.  Yes, the entire time we talked about it I cried.

Now, I have a couple adoptive moms looking the letter over and if they don't find anything offensive, then it is off in the mail.

22 comments:

Vertical Mom said...

Good for you!!! I am praying that their hearts will be ready for this and you all will have a more peaceful relationship. {{HUGS}}

amelia said...

Good luck!! will be praying for you

Wendy said...

I hope that everything goes well and that they respond well to the letter. It's good that you wrote it.

Janine said...

I am so pleased you have done this. Praying it is received with open hearts.

wsbirthmom said...

I know that it took a lot to write that letter without exploding. I hope that they wake up from their facade and start living in reality. It's only fair to all involved, especially Brit and her natural siblings.

m&msmommy said...

I am so glad that you were able to write this letter. I pray with all my heart and soul that it is received openly and that something truly amazing comes from it. Praying, praying, praying!!!!!!!

Pam said...

I sure hope things change for a better relationship.

I would love to have such a caring birth family for our adopted daughter and our family to have a relationship with. We also have been basically told where the line is and not to cross it. I can only try to comfort my daughter while she cries.

Amber said...

So happy for you for doing this! Best of luck!

Debbie said...

So happy to see this post!! I will be praying it is well received.

Km said...

Prayers hugs and love coming your way!!!!!!! Keep us all updated!

Nan said...

I will add my prayers as well. I wish you could all share the love and happiness of a relationship that is beneficial to everyone involved in Brit's life.

Rebecca said...

Praying for their hearts to be opened and touched as they read it and for a great meeting with them!

Anonymous said...

I pray that their hearts are touched in a way that allows them to see how beautiful more openness can bring to Britt and to you. Your heart deserves MORE and I pray you get what you are reaching for...LOVE.

Anonymous said...

I am praying hearts are opened and healed. -Jean

Venessa said...

Thinking of you and hoping that they see how wonderful it would be to have you in their lives!

Jake and Terri said...

Thinking of you and everyone involved. I hope hearts can be softened and you can have a more open adoption relationship.

Anne said...

Hi LisaAnne, I just discovered your blog today. I am an adoptive Mom, and your blog breaks my heart. I am so, so sorry for your pain. I really apologize for my language, but your daughter's adoptive parents are being a-holes. I don't usually comment on blogs, but after reading through your's I could not keep quiet. Their lack of respect and their selfishness is beyond hurtful. Good for you for writing and sending that letter, and I hope that they will open their hearts and do the right thing for your daughter, and for you.
I'd like to put you on my blogroll if that's ok??
Anne
www.allaboutelizabeth-anne.blogspot.com

LisaAnne said...

I would be glad for you to list my blog Anne. Thank you for your words of encouragement.

To all the others. Keep praying. The letter will go in the mail tomorrow. It has been revised multiple times and as of tomorrow, it will be in God's hands.

theyalllived said...

Use a delivery service so you know it get's there and get's received!!! I would hate for something to happen to it.

Thinking of you and wishing for all you want.

Lavender Luz said...

Thinking of you all.

Anonymous said...

Anne: while the circumstances are less than ideal I think it's horrible that you just referred to them as a-holes. Very judgmental when you don't even know them. Lisa I'm very disappointed that you allowed Anne to get away with that. I understand that you are angry and hurt but I sure hope you will address that. I totally hope that you get what you want out of this and that it can all be worked out. Thinking about you!

LisaAnne said...

Anonymous,

I leave comments from others on here unless they spell out profanity or have a general overall spirit of hatred, even when commenters disagree with me. I leave the comment because I believe that the adoption world has many different views, not all of which do I agree with.

The interpreted the spirit of Anne's comment as supportive. And since her comment came from disappointment from an adoptive mother herself, I left it.

Sure, a better word choice could have been more appropriate, but I understood the word to represent her passionate disagreement with our current relationship.

I would hope that a reader would know that Anne does not know Brit's parents and the word was not based on a personal knowledge of them, but instead a description of undesirable behavior.

I do not use derogatory language about Brit's parents in public or privately.