Friday, August 24, 2012

Please pray

First of all, thanks to everyone who reached out to me yesterday when the blanket of grief was so heavy.  Why it strikes like that, without a known trigger, I will never understand.  But it is like a freight train that you cannot avoid.

As is true of everyday of my life, I stayed extraordinarily busy until 10pm last night so there was no time for a pity party.  I just pushed through.  By the end of the day I was laughing with friends as we had a chocolate and wine girls night out. (Even though I am one of a handful of people who do not like chocolate - strange I know - however I enjoyed the cheese that was also served and gave away my chocolates to the other ladies.)

But here is what I would like to ask of each of you today.  Please pray.

I expect that Brit's parents will get the letter today.  It took me a long time to get it in the mail because several of my adoptive mom friends helped me edit, rewrite, and soften some of the message.  We dissected every sentence, trying to make sure that the overall message of a desire for a more genuine relationship between our families was not lost because of word choice or presentation.

But now it is completely out of my hands and will be delivered to them.  Please pray specifically for a couple of things...

  • That they will receive the words written in the spirit that they were intended 
  • That their hearts will be softened toward us and that they would be willing to have dialog about our relationship.


I have sent an email to them with the same request before, to no response.  It is obvious that talking about expanding our relationship is not within their comfort zone.

So please pray that they will feel our spirit of love and desire for just expanded relationship between all of us, and that they will not be intimidated or so uncomfortable that they cannot respond.

Thank you dear friends.


16 comments:

Rebecca Hawkes said...

So, so, so hoping a door will open. Thinking of you! <3

jennifer said...

Praying for you :)

A Life Being Lived said...

I don't like chocolate either! ;)

Saying prayers that your letter opens their hearts and can bring your families closer together!!!

Anonymous said...

Praying for you and your families!

Janine said...

praying for you all! Hope the wait for a response is not too long.

Debbie said...

Praying through tears that they will consider this and at least talk with you all about expanding your relationship to see if you can all come to an agreement.

Lu Holt said...

Lisa,
Praying that your letter is felt in the purpose for which it was intended. I pray for you to have some peace and comfort and the relationship will grow and be the one you hope for. You deserve this prayer answered.

Susie said...

Praying.... with fingers and toes crossed for extra luck!

Vertical Mom said...

Absolutely praying for soft hearts!!!

Wendy said...

I hope they talk to you about changing your relationship/openness after they read your letter. Thinking of you and hoping you're okay.

birthmothertalks said...

Hoping they are willing to try to bend a little your way. It's seem a shame to have yearly visits when your so close to each other in distance.

Katelyn Krum Shaw said...

Lisa I truly hope they consider even just talking with you about opening the adoption more. I am a birth mother and an adoptive mother and honestly at this point I would jump for joy for more contact with my birth daughter AND with my son's birth family. BUT with that said... change is a scary thing. While I would jump for joy there would be a part of me that would be scared, nervous, and all around reserved in the situation. Praying for the best.

amelia said...

Praying for God's will for all of you!! please keep us updated

BumbersBumblings said...

Definitely praying, my friend! Ever since I read it. I just soo hope that your words soften her heart! Love you!

m&msmommy said...

Prayers, prayrs, and more prayers coming your way!

Km said...

Tons of prayers coming your way!!! Xoxoxoxox