(Lori) Lavender Luz gets open adoption. She completely and fully embraces openness. The real kind of openness where her children's fullness is her first priority, therefore her children's first parents are a part of their family. Because they belong there. They are as much a part of her children's sense of identity as is their membership in her family.
But this post that she shares about how open adoption is not necessarily a spectrum based on level of contact, but more like a grid, is completely and totally profound and spot on to me. Openess is not determined just by amount of contact, but by quality of interaction.
The open adoption spectrum and grid
Please read and let me know what you think. It just amazed me that she is so introspectful and able to articulate these concepts so well.
Here is the graphic that she includes...