Monday, February 20, 2012
Treating birth families like, well, FAMILY
Profound in its simplicity as far as I was concerned.
A second question posted, asked again by a mother of an adopted child, dealt with whether or not their family should tell their child's birth mother that they are not comfortable meeting her boyfriend (of about 6 months) at their next visit. (The birth mother kindly asked in advance, giving the parents the opportunity to say no.)
Another mother replied (a blogging mom that I actually follow) that they don't tell their daughter's birth mother who she can or cannot bring to a visit. Just like they do not tell other family members who they can or cannot bring to family get togethers. Their daughter's birth mother knows that they expect she would only bring someone who is safe to be around their daughter. But past that, they are open to allowing her bring her current boyfriend, a girl friend or any other member of her family with her.
Again, a wise statement in my book.
The common theme in both of these responses, by two different mommas.
We treat our child's birth family the same way we treat our own family.