The email arrived last week

We did receive an email from Brit's parents in response to the letter we mailed them.  The letter to them asked that they might consider opening up our relationship more between our families..

I have processed it enough that I can type this, but enough that I can find a sweet silver lining.  So the usual LisaAnne way of focusing on the positives will have to wait until I can type without tears.

That may be a while.

They are not interested in a familial relationship with us.  They are comfortable with the ways things are and they will let Brit decide when she wants a relationship with us.

That is all I can bring myself to say right now.

I know others of you walk this path with me.  Thank you for the outpouring of support.

Please continue to pray for an opening of their hearts and for God to help comfort mine.  And above all else, pray for sweet Brit, for she is the one who ultimately pays the price for our decisions.

Please pray

First of all, thanks to everyone who reached out to me yesterday when the blanket of grief was so heavy.  Why it strikes like that, without a known trigger, I will never understand.  But it is like a freight train that you cannot avoid.

As is true of everyday of my life, I stayed extraordinarily busy until 10pm last night so there was no time for a pity party.  I just pushed through.  By the end of the day I was laughing with friends as we had a chocolate and wine girls night out. (Even though I am one of a handful of people who do not like chocolate - strange I know - however I enjoyed the cheese that was also served and gave away my chocolates to the other ladies.)

But here is what I would like to ask of each of you today.  Please pray.

I expect that Brit's parents will get the letter today.  It took me a long time to get it in the mail because several of my adoptive mom friends helped me edit, rewrite, and soften some of the message.  We dissected every sentence, trying to make sure that the overall message of a desire for a more genuine relationship between our families was not lost because of word choice or presentation.

But now it is completely out of my hands and will be delivered to them.  Please pray specifically for a couple of things...

• That they will receive the words written in the spirit that they were intended 
• That their hearts will be softened toward us and that they would be willing to have dialog about our relationship.

I have sent an email to them with the same request before, to no response.  It is obvious that talking about expanding our relationship is not within their comfort zone.

So please pray that they will feel our spirit of love and desire for just expanded relationship between all of us, and that they will not be intimidated or so uncomfortable that they cannot respond.

Thank you dear friends.

The letter has been written

I have written the letter to Brit's parents asking for the four of us to sit down and talk about our level of openness in our adoption relationship.

It felt good to write.  I could have written a book.  It was very hard to keep it down to a couple of pages.

I let BF look it over last night and he gave it his blessing.  Yes, the entire time we talked about it I cried.

Now, I have a couple adoptive moms looking the letter over and if they don't find anything offensive, then it is off in the mail.