tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post8288456937492099060..comments2023-09-25T03:51:15.327-05:00Comments on Living through today: Life in picturesLisaAnnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06436140358037471855noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-76826302950121352042012-10-24T08:18:13.343-05:002012-10-24T08:18:13.343-05:00oh, i'm so sorry, lisa. as an adoptive mom in...oh, i'm so sorry, lisa. as an adoptive mom in two open adoptions, i wish they understood that what they are doing is not okay. it's wrong for you, it's wrong for b, and it's wrong for them because they're missing out on what could be a great connection with you and your wonderful family. i know they must love b, and they must be scared, but they need to work through that fear and understand that she will not love them less just because she has more people to love and to love her!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-77317573798829677012012-10-24T01:34:08.571-05:002012-10-24T01:34:08.571-05:00I dont have the words to express how I feel. But I...I dont have the words to express how I feel. But I will continue to pray (((Hugs))) Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07416146527994599325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-87825279080737226212012-10-23T23:23:12.959-05:002012-10-23T23:23:12.959-05:00The problem is, if you make the site private to of...The problem is, if you make the site private to offer yourself some privacy from whomever they choose to share your blog with, they could well close the adoption anyway.<br /><br />The logic being ''we can't see what you're posting, so we're going to close the adoption in case you're doing something we don't like''.<br /><br />Evidently, they value biological ties very much and are threatened by you guys. Evidently, they don't want contact, nor believe or care if it's in the best interest of their daughter -- and thus it seems like they could close the adoption anyway, honestly, because they find it all so ''offensive''. <br /><br />I really worry that they'll use the littlest excuse to close the small window you do have into Brit's world, simply because it's convenient for them.<br /><br />Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-32833589398668848722012-10-23T21:34:39.981-05:002012-10-23T21:34:39.981-05:00I'm beyond appalled at what they said to you. ...I'm beyond appalled at what they said to you. I don't even have the words.<br /><br />I realize this space is such a source of support and love for you but like above, I'd be tempted to change to an anonymous one and password protect posts so the little that you have access to Britt does't get put in jeopardy.<br /><br />Ugh...Lisa my heart breaks for you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-12819582482474390492012-10-23T20:11:42.033-05:002012-10-23T20:11:42.033-05:00Although there are SO many things I want to say th...Although there are SO many things I want to say that basically just reiterate what the above comments have stated, I won't! I will just continue to pray. God can change this and I know He will!! :) m&msmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16812102710227469529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-89190259550768611982012-10-23T19:43:37.512-05:002012-10-23T19:43:37.512-05:00Well, looks like the other gals pretty much covere...Well, looks like the other gals pretty much covered what I was gonna say. I'm an adoptive mom who, after four years, is still wishing that my son's mom would acknowledge him as being remotely important to her. I know that one day he will need to know that, and I never want him to think that I hindered a relationship between the two of them. <br /><br />Hang in there, Lisa. That's all I can say.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04255821061455580678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-86317626079299765572012-10-23T19:24:00.730-05:002012-10-23T19:24:00.730-05:00I am afraid your walking on thin ice and any actio...I am afraid your walking on thin ice and any action you could take could result in them closing the adoption. So unfair of them to treat you this way. birthmothertalkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-81043129808971134722012-10-23T16:36:01.978-05:002012-10-23T16:36:01.978-05:00These are some really horrible rotten people you a...These are some really horrible rotten people you are dealing with Lisa. Its really ashame their true colors didn't come out before the adoption was finalized.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-23801463848259162252012-10-23T16:08:34.796-05:002012-10-23T16:08:34.796-05:00They really are a selfish couple of people. I'...They really are a selfish couple of people. I'm glad you and the boys are ok, but I simply cannot get past the idea that you gave them your daughter -- and they won't let you see her or share pictures of her. <br /><br />Also, they're sharing your blog with their friends? Seriously?<br /><br />And their friends are offended? That's so sad. Great though, that their friends matter so much to them. So thoughtful. Wouldn't it be nice if they applied that level of care and consideration to their relationship with you and the rest of Brit's family?<br /><br />Can you tell I'm seething mad on your behalf? If I were you, Lisa, I'd make the blog private. You know who your friends and regular commenters are. Brit's parents are concerned about privacy yet don't mind passing your blog URL around their friends? Good grief.Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-30429197400078385842012-10-23T15:55:03.360-05:002012-10-23T15:55:03.360-05:00"They were also clear that there will be no m..."They were also clear that there will be no more pictures of Brit shared with us if I don't stop posting them."<br /><br />How they could be so cruel and selfish to someone who lost while they gained is incomprehensible. That is your daughter, but that is the problem obviously, isn't it? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-42312832801468239952012-10-23T14:44:34.758-05:002012-10-23T14:44:34.758-05:00I totally agree with all the comments above. I'...I totally agree with all the comments above. I'm also an adoptive Mom, and I just can't understand why Brit's aparents are so threatened and insecure. I'm so sorry, ugg....Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06222871697045360999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-70819703915835810362012-10-23T14:01:28.264-05:002012-10-23T14:01:28.264-05:00Sooo happy you had a great trip with your sister! ...Sooo happy you had a great trip with your sister! You both are adorable! <br /><br />You know as an adoptive momma, Brit's parents essentially threatening you with no more pictures, if you continue to post them here, really rubs me the wrong way. There was a similar question on the Adoptive Families about birthparents posting pictures on FB once the parents shared pictures. Why wouldn't you want to share pictures? You have right to, you gave birth to that beautiful little girl and made an incredibly hard choice for her. If I were you, and clearly I'm not, I'd make my blog private. You shouldn't have to worry about what you write. These are your feelings and you shouldn't have to feel like they have the upperhand in everything with this adoption. It's just wrong how they go about everything with this "open" adoption. <br /><br />Lastly, I couldn't agree more with the anonymous poster that commented first. She said it perfectly. <br /><br />Sending lots of adoptive momma hugs your way. XXXXAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-36649061511515712672012-10-23T13:41:32.574-05:002012-10-23T13:41:32.574-05:00I'm so sorry you have to deal with this type o...I'm so sorry you have to deal with this type of situation. I don't understand it at all - It almost seems as if they are in some type of denial about their adoption. I'm sure that Brit will grow up knowing that you wanted a relationship and the only people that held her back were her adoptive parents. So sad. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-60149957884589697422012-10-23T13:38:54.188-05:002012-10-23T13:38:54.188-05:00I was just thinking it had been awhile since I'...I was just thinking it had been awhile since I'd read your blog so I popped over to check it out. Not trying to SWF you, but come on! That is almost like ESP*N* or something. ;)<br /><br /> I love, love, love the mickey stuff for the kids and the fact that you buy for all three is totally amazing. I am praying for the whole situation. <br />JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-16582362172392791952012-10-23T13:04:36.118-05:002012-10-23T13:04:36.118-05:00Well, if they're offended - then they shouldn&...Well, if they're offended - then they shouldn't read. You've said absolutely nothing offensive about them. Perhaps they realize the selfish disgusting way they've acted to you and your children by adopting your child with an agreement of an open adoption and then have purposely kept her away from you and almost ceased contact with you. I can tell you that these actions are not without consequence and will be at the detriment of Brit. When she gets older and sees this she will definitely have something to say - I, as an adoptee who grew up in a similar situation, know this for a fact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com