tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post1638010794650087774..comments2023-09-25T03:51:15.327-05:00Comments on Living through today: Pray for those who hurt youLisaAnnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06436140358037471855noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-10011875045067569392013-03-09T11:12:37.151-06:002013-03-09T11:12:37.151-06:00Truly no matter if someone doesn't be aware of...Truly no matter if someone doesn't be aware of then its up to other visitors that they will assist, so here it happens.<br /><br />Here is my page: <a href="http://ww.facebookpeace.com/profile/bokovurkyci050" rel="nofollow">ww.facebookpeace.com</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-13668572938005995802013-03-09T07:58:38.227-06:002013-03-09T07:58:38.227-06:00Greate post. Keep posting such kind of information...Greate post. 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It wasn't a fear she had, it was something that really happened.<br /><br />I think I know who needs the loving sympathy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-25117864070242222732012-08-01T18:56:47.860-05:002012-08-01T18:56:47.860-05:00Yes That was unnatural what was hurled at you ...M...Yes That was unnatural what was hurled at you ...My baby was taken by force from Maternity Hosp as Id depression and no family or support as i grew up in fostercare myself and to this day Im fighting bk in a higher court as I am my Daughters Mum and I have a sister at home waiting for her other half and shes affected too but thats irrelavant to the people who took her and claim her as theyre own.I love her dearly and its heartbreaking year in year out with slow if any progress .Its a life sentence but one im glad to take on for this injustice ..no wonder i was depressed ...i was repetively told my baby was being forcibly taken..boy/girl when delivered and i was advised to terminate and or foster out my baby voluntary! sickening! and since she left me at 4 days old i actually turned my life around to show her this is one battle i fight for family and our future <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-72283716019838663092012-08-01T18:56:13.455-05:002012-08-01T18:56:13.455-05:00Yes That was unnatural what was hurled at you ...M...Yes That was unnatural what was hurled at you ...My baby was taken by force from Maternity Hosp as Id depression and no family or support as i grew up in fostercare myself and to this day Im fighting bk in a higher court as I am my Daughters Mum and I have a sister at home waiting for her other half and shes affected too but thats irrelavant to the people who took her and claim her as theyre own.I love her dearly and its heartbreaking year in year out with slow if any progress .Its a life sentence but one im glad to take on for this injustice ..no wonder i was depressed ...i was repetively told my baby was being forcibly taken..boy/girl when delivered and i was advised to terminate and or foster out my baby voluntary! sickening! and since she left me at 4 days old i actually turned my life around to show her this is one battle i fight for family and our future <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-33057689718616266972012-04-27T21:00:41.166-05:002012-04-27T21:00:41.166-05:00When an adoptive parent shows such utter disregard...When an adoptive parent shows such utter disregard to the natural mother, she is also harming her adopted child as well. The first mother is a part of that child forever, and to speak with such ill is not unlike a divorced parent who tries to turn her children against the other parent. I am sorry you had to read such cruel words. You are very brave not only to share your personal experience with others, but also because you are brave enough to process your life in the first place. Too many are quick to project their own hostility upon others, and never come to understand themselves.Jenniferhttp://www.abortedadoption.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-10345167569450184642012-04-18T14:25:51.708-05:002012-04-18T14:25:51.708-05:00What a selfish witch. I wish I could punch her in ...What a selfish witch. I wish I could punch her in the face. Here you have it, in a nutshell of how adopters turn on you after they get what they want. I will be willing to bet you anything this adopter was sappy sweet and told the natural mother of the child she covets anything she wanted to hear. Now SHE thinks she is mommy and is going into "mommy" protective instinct of someone else's child. What a joke.<br /><br />Actually adopter mommy, natural mothers are the one's who go into <br />"protective instinct" when they realize they have been duped and people like you are raising THEIR children. <br /><br />What a sick, narcissistic pig.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-14336701523671890922011-04-15T15:31:16.381-05:002011-04-15T15:31:16.381-05:00Oh MY...I found your blog through Rebekah and I ju...Oh MY...I found your blog through Rebekah and I just read this post and THIS comment. We are the adoptive parents of two precious kids and this comment is ludicrous! Since when are we not each allowed to feel and experience our own way?! Ugh. This really bothered me as an adoptive parent. IF this person had done any research or educated herself at all on open VS. closed adoptions, perhaps she wouldn't have attacked you and your emotions that way. I love your take on it. Glad i found your blog! :)~Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00431200698735865679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-35455617072964643782011-03-30T16:43:23.391-05:002011-03-30T16:43:23.391-05:00In my honest opinion, unfortunately there are adop...In my honest opinion, unfortunately there are adoptive parents who feel that way and it comes from fear ... they did not seek or get the proper education before making this choice on having a family through adoption ... The lack of empathy only reinforces hers and others who think like that the fear they feel in having not been the ones to birth the children they are raising ... my heart goes out to the children whose moms do not understand and fear their first/birth families.<br /><br />Open Adoption is not easy but it is a choice that the adults in the situation choose to have. It is the hope of all involved that the child is best served in knowing their first/birth family and possibly their extended families ...<br /><br />Unfortunately there is not enough grief work for those who could not have children and choose to adopt others to acknowledge that they cannot and will not forever be genetic connected to the child they are raising ...<br /><br />We were once told if you cannot once a year meet the woman and/or man who chose you to parent their child at least once a year for coffee than you should not accept that child.<br /><br />We are thankful for the education, support, guidance we had during our journey to parenthood through adoption ... we have two daughters and we could not see not seeing their birth families for their benefit and ours :)<br /><br />My hope is for you and the family your daughter is with to find a place where you can all feel comfortable together and be a family together no matter how it came to be!<br /><br />There are never too many people in this world who can love a child and adult!MommySquaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07394551261768566946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-15982886967480899452011-03-30T01:13:40.419-05:002011-03-30T01:13:40.419-05:00I am so so sorry this happened. It is people like ...I am so so sorry this happened. It is people like this woman who give adoption a bad name. This part really got me... ".. grateful that God has blessed you with this couple. Grieve and process your guilt as it is yours and yours alone to bare..." She should be grateful that God has blessed HER with a CHILD, and be grateful for that child's birthparents. You were using your blog to grieve, and I think I am correct in assuming you did not personally ask her to read it and give her opinion?? It seems to me that this woman is caught up in the old way adoption was, and needs to give her head a shake. <br />Who do you think her child will be angry at once he comes searching for answers? His birthmother who gave him up out of selfless love, or the woman who denied him love because of her own insecurities and selfishness? <br />Don't let this get to you Lisa. You know you did what was right for Brit.<br />I do understand that adoptive mothers grieve a lot as well, and in no means am I suggesting that she is some heartless person. I can't imagine the pain and fears adoptive mothers have. However, I feel sorry for her and everything she will be missing out on with the lack of such a positive relationship, I really do. Hopefully she can overcome her insecurities and keep her opinions away from your blog.Dallas Christina https://www.blogger.com/profile/05913672248244332623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-82816917503152807842011-03-29T12:46:48.159-05:002011-03-29T12:46:48.159-05:00God bless you for doing the best thing you thought...God bless you for doing the best thing you thought to do for your baby girl. You carried her inside you and gave her life without you there would be no Brit, although you gave to other parents, you bonded with her in such a special way, that you will always have a desire to see her grow up. Just keep loving.<br />Keep looking up the best is yet to come.<br />Lissyasdkfjl;https://www.blogger.com/profile/02888185941506623112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-8470789671747253212011-03-29T10:07:59.437-05:002011-03-29T10:07:59.437-05:00I am an adoptive mom to a precious little boy. I ...I am an adoptive mom to a precious little boy. I have loved reading your blog because it helps me to know the heart on the other side of our closed adoption. I connected with my son's birth mom & have always said, "She & I could have been best friends." In many ways I wish that our situation was more open. To be honest, I'm not even sure of the reasons it is closed. I do know there is that fear on my side of losing my son. But, I also know that I will support him 100% if he choses to have his birth family be a part of his life. I, for one, appreciate your honesty & frankness. It really does help me to have a glimmer of an idea what things must be for our birth mom. I think of her often, pray for her continually, & thank the Lord for her daily! <br /><br />As to the comments you have received...I truly believe that each situation is unique. I do understand the fear in an adoptive parent's heart of losing their precious child. But, I also try my hardest to understand the loss in the birth mother's heart. If it weren't for her heart, I wouldn't have mine! So, to you I say thank you...for being brave enough to put it out there.Sherylynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14764630082054529735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1222186000472192475.post-16851796039486466692011-03-29T09:23:19.545-05:002011-03-29T09:23:19.545-05:00That was harsh wasn't it? Well, as an adult ad...That was harsh wasn't it? Well, as an adult adoptee I would have to say adoption is harsh for us too. My wish is that everyone would understand how hard and lifelong painful it is BEFORE they deceide that it will be a win-win-win for everyone. <br /><br />You can continue by being honest on your blog. It seems you though it would be like you were raising your child from afar without the responsibility, but able to enjoy all the milestones. Its not so easy is it? It will not be easy for your child either. And if this adoption closes, it will also be hard for both of you. There are no easy answers, just a lifetime of loss.<br /><br /> And as you see, some adoptive parents just want everyone to get over it, so they can continue with the "as if born to" fantasy. <br />Good luck with your hard choices, I hope you can find a way to compromise and keep the best interests of your child in mind.Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03304963190823820769noreply@blogger.com